Wednesday, July 11, 2018

On Kids and Marriage

Almost all of my cousins are married and have kids (even mg ex and my cousin already have a kid!) as well as most of my batchmates and friends. I’m 32 years old and I don’t feel like getting married and having kids. Is there something wrong with me? And oh, I’m straight. 

My 94-year-old grandma is worried about my situation. Originally, she was worried because she thought (or maybe she is still thinking) that I  was (or am) still affected by my ex getting married with my cousin. She surprised visit me last month and she kept pushing me to get married and that I will be miserable if I don’t get married. I asked, “Is marriage the only form of happiness?”

All of my cousins in Pagadian don’t share my views about marriage and kids, that’s why I don’t feel like visiting them because the discussion turns to: Oi, when are you getting married bah? I don’t want to get married just to make me feel complete (because I know it won’t complete me), I don't want to have kids just because I want someone to take care of me when I get old. I always ask myself: Am I normal? Why don’t I feel the urge to get married or have kids? Until now, I don’t hear my biological clock ticking. Am I really normal?

My family just don’t understand. It’s my choice. I hope they’ll understand that and I hope they’ll respect my choices in life.