As embarrassing as it is, I must admit that my mother has some kind of an envious nature. Case in point, when she saw her neighbor's new 50 inch flat screen TV, she wants one too! She begged me for it like you wouldn't believe! Of course, I said NO! I told her my sacrifices(the usual litany in detail of all that I have been doing just to save a penny), and how she should be thankful that in the subdivision we're in, only 2 houses were fully paid- one is ours and the other one is owned by an American. She kept on bugging me, and I kept on saying no.
Fellow OFWs, we should say the "N" word often. We can't be a genie that grants our family's each and every request! When you say YES all the time , you are giving them impression that life abroad is a paradise, that it's raining money here. Don't give in to their guilt-trip. Just say NO and you will get use to it, I swear! Take it from me, I said NO to them many times and I am used to all their "kuripot" label they're throwing at me.
By saying "NO" often, believe that we are teaching our family back home a lesson, that you are breaking the cycle of financial dependency in your family.
I know, when you say NO, you will think that they will think that, "Ay, nag aabroad pero wala naman palang pera." So what if they'll think that you are a failure because you cant seem to provide? I'd rather they think I am a failure than trying to impress them that life abroad is great and all, coz I know that it's not.
By saying NO most of the time to my family's wants and whims, I know that I'm beginning to end the cycle of financial dependency that has plague my family ever since I can remember. It ends with me.